After funerals at funeral homes in Geddes, NY, people who are grieving may not feel emotionally up to writing thank you notes to the people who helped them through the funeral process – and afterward. However, even though writing these thank you notes may seem overwhelming to you, they should be done in the immediate weeks after your loved one’s funeral.
This guide should help make writing thank you notes easier for you, even when it may be the last thing you feel like you can handle, because words can be difficult to find in the middle of your grief.
One tip is to keep a list of all the people who have helped you during the loss of your loved one. You do not have to write a thank you note to every single person who attended your loved one’s funeral or graveside service.
However, you should write thank you notes to people who participated in your loved one’s funeral, who sent flowers or made memorial donations, and who helped out by bringing food, picking up people arriving from out of town, and other tasks that took some of the day to day burdens off of you and your family.
Write these names – and what they did – in a notebook so that you do not forget to thank anyone who assisted you in these kinds of ways. When you are grieving, your memory will not be as good as it normally is, and you do not want to leave anyone out.
Be sure to write thank you notes to the person who officiated your loved one’s funeral, the people who read or performed during the funeral, the people who gave eulogies, and the pallbearers.
Another tip is to keep your thank you notes short. You can simply thank each person for the specific thing they did, sent, or brought and express your appreciation for their thoughtfulness in your time of need.
Although you need to send thank you notes relatively quickly after your loved one’s funeral, you do not have to sit down and write them the day after the funeral. The first week or two after your loved one’s death will be full of more important matters as you wrap up their legal and financial affairs.
However, you should write and send thank you notes within a month of your loved one’s funeral. People who helped out need to know that you are thankful for what they did and that you appreciate their gestures of support and comfort.
A fourth tip is to get some help writing the thank you notes you need to send. Writing thank you cards after the death of loved one can be emotionally overwhelming. Enlist friends and family members to help you write – and mail – all the thank you notes you need to send. It will make the entire task more doable and will provide you with a supportive team as you write them.
If your loved one was well-known in the community, sending personalized thank you notes to everyone may be impossible. One option that works well is to place a “Card of Thanks” in the local newspaper (both print and digital) to express your gratitude for the outpouring of love and support you and your family have received after your loved one’s death.